Today I wanted to share a messagae specifically for Black parents.
Last week in Wilmington, Delaware there was a host of shootings.
Now if you are familiar with Wilmington, De, you are not surprised by this news.
However, what was most surprising, was the fact that all the shootings that occurred involved teenagers. One shooting ended with a 13 year old losing his life to gun violence. The baby was only 13. I don’t care what he was into, he was 13.
In 2017, there was a article written that stated,
“Wilmington, De leads US in teen shootings.”
I have Black children. I work with Black youth. When I hear statistics and see articles written on subjects regarding teen violence, it makes me cringe. It really makes me sick to my stomach.
As I sat back and thought of ways I can make a difference, my little voice said to me,
“Antinette, it starts in the home.”
So I meditated on a word that I could share with the parents of Black children, that can support us all in saving and ensuring that our children have long lives!
I actually came up with 6 words that will support US in saving OUR children!
We as parents have to be accountable for our parenting, or lack there of. We have to be accountable for our own personal growth and development. If we are not growing mentally and spiritually as parents, neither will our children. We have to be accountable for the content and experiences that we expose our children to. We have to be accountable for our poverty. If we want our children to have a chance, we have to be accountable for the situation that we are in. Understand the parts that we play and did not play in the situation, and then we have to develop a plan that supports our family unit in moving forward successfully!
Being resilient means that you are able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Black parents, Black people as a whole are resilient beings. Since our existence into what is known as the USA, we have been placed in the most gruesome and horrific situations, but still we rise. Still we continue to fight and live to see another day. If you are reading this right now, I need you to understand that you have the power to overcome any situation that you are in. It will require work but your can overcome.
- Expand Pass Your Comfort Zone
Some of us are too comfortable. Comfortable with living paycheck to paycheck. Comfortable with not taking steps toward that thing you want to accomplish deep down on the inside. Why? Because you are comfortable with not putting in the work required. Your dreams require too much work and you would rather be comfortable. Well let me tell you something about comfort zones. Nothing great ever grows in comfort zones. It is time to expand pass your comfort zone for the sake of your child(ren)!
We as Black parents have to be committed. We have to be committed to growth and also have to have a strong commitment to disrupting the system. There is a system in place that was designed to prevent Black people from surviving and thriving in America. That is facts. However, if you are using the system as an excuse to not make any moves, to not go after what you say it is that you want, You need to reevaluate YOU!
Black parents, young and old, it takes a village. I am so thankful for my village. Without my village I wouldn’t be to raise my kids with a clear mental state that I am in, and my kids still question my sanity at times. The point is, I talk to many women who say that they are stressed and have no help with their kids. That is because we got rid of the village. Even if you come from a background where you are disconnected with your original parents and family, at some point, we all have the ability to create an environment that is conducive to our happiness and success. It starts with your village.
Some call it consequences. I say put a lil’ fear in them. Whatever your strategy. Implement something that works for the child that you are raising. I share a funny story in the video below about consequences, and how different forms work in my family.
In order for us to save our children, we as Black parents have to save ourselves!
Until next time….
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