Why I Am Going Back To Therapy & Why You Should Go To

Hey now!

I am giving it another try, I am taking my butt to therapy……AGAIN!

I tried going in 2019, however, it did not work out. I attended about 3-4 sessions and after the therapist kept showing up late, I ended our relationship.

Quickly after that I quit my job and I could no longer afford therapy anymore or so I thought.

Did you know that Medicaid pays for therapy? Yes they do!

When I was working, my sessions were close to $100, and now that I have Medicaid, my sessions are FREE!

I plan on taking full advantage of these free sessions for sure.

I really enjoyed going to therapy. It was one hair where I could spend 1 hour with an unbiased person talking my issues and my problems.

The first session…as soon as I opened my mouth, the tears started flowing. Second session I was told that I had anxiety and the sessions did not last too much longer after that.

Now I am going back and I am determined to find someone I can connect with and who can really support me and give me the tools that I need to get out of my own way.

This time I am being more specific with my search. I don’t just want any therapist.

 This time I would like my therapist to be a minority, preferably Black, a woman, and someone older than me.

Studies show that a person who has a helping professional who look like them, has a greater chance of being understood and being helped.

My last therapist was my age.

I felt like she was too comfortable. She was so comfortable to the point where she would cuss in our sessions. I am a cusser, but I feel that the professional is always supposed to maintain a certain type of professionalism.

This time, I am not only being more specific in my approach I am being more specific in my healing.

DISCLAIMER: I believe that every living person should see a therapist at least once. Commit to a few sessions and see what comes up for YOU!

The main reason I am seeking therapy this time around is because I suffered a great loss recently.

Grief is so crazy when dealing with a loss that is unexpected.

I didn’t think I would cry anymore since the last time I cried. I knew the thoughts would remain but I thought the emotional part was over.

I was wrong!

Literally 2 days ago I started crying and crying. I was cool. Then this song came on and I just busted out crying.

 That’s grief tho’.

I have to remind myself. It’s okay to feel emotions, but don’t stay in that sad place for too long.

I also want support in processing the fact that I “feel” I lost the last father figure I had.

I say feel because my “dad” is still alive but I don’t have the tools or will to rebuild that relationship honestly.

I think about  wanting to have a good relationship with my dad, but the relationship is inconsistent so I don’t know how to handle that.

I need help.

Last but not least, I need support in my relationships, platonic and romantic.

When it comes to communicating, intimacy, connecting.

 When you don’t have a relationship with the person(s) that birthed you.

When the people who gave birth to you literally neglect you and ignore you, it does something to you.

For me, to not feel that pain of the experiences I was dealing with in my life anymore I had to build BIG walls.

Walls that would support me in not feeling, reacting, or responding when I feel neglected, ignored, or any other emotion that does not make me feel good.

Those walls that I have built are now affecting the relationships that I am having as an adult.

It affects the self-talk that I have about certain situations.

It affect how I respond and react in situations and I believe that most of my thought could cease if I communicate but I don’t want to say the wrong thing in the wrong way sometimes.

If you know me personally you might say “No, not Nette.”

Most times I’m gone say what I want because that is how I was raised, but I really be sparing people man. Lol.

I don’t want to spare people and I don’t want to hurt people either, I just want to be heard and say what I have to say, in the most respectful way possible.

So that why I am going to therapy.

I want to show up as my best self every day and I know therapy will support me in doing that.

My first appointment is Monday!!

I am excited and I will surely be back to let you know how it went.

Are you someone who has experienced some form of trauma or have been involved in some type of drama that has affected you in a major way?

I encourage you to go to therapy!

Schedule that appointment.

It is time to take the necessary steps for you to heal so you can manifest the life you deserve.

Alright now.

Until next time…..

How to guarantee SUCCESS in your service based business!

I have been putting a lot of thought into this lately. I see a lot of people who portray that they are in business. However, what I find is that being in business is about more than having and selling a product or service.

Yes I said what I said.

Having a service that sells and or being able to sell any product are both great qualities and are crucial in business but it is not everything you need.

And if you have a product that sells but don’t have other parts of your business in order, you WILL fail.

In today’s article I am sharing with you , I have found to be key factors in having a successful service based business. I am speaking as a consumer and a business owner.

Lets get into it

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Heal Your Heart to Manifest and Maintain Your Desires

Before I share the messages the cards revealed this week, I think it’s only right that I give an update regarding last weeks predictions

Last, the cards stated that I would be receiving some news this week that would have me jumping for joy. I assumed I was going to get a phone call but I did NOT receive the phone call that I was referring to.

It’s cool though because I received other messages that had me jumping for joy!

  1. I was informed of an online training that led to funding opportunities that will allow me to expand my business. I reached out the contact on the call and I have a meeting scheduled for January 6, I will keep you updated!
  2. Also, one of my good friends and clients reached out to me and let me know of a resource/blessing that will support us in facilitating a project we are planning in 2021.

I was too hype!!

Outside of that, I have been taking the role as the leader in my life more seriously, not just in business but all areas.  Listening to my spirit and trusting my intuition.

I am officially on the board of Black Mothers in Power, an organization focused reducing the disparities that Black women face in maternal healthcare.

I have been engaging in a lot of positive self talk and trying my best to stay calm.

Now lets get into this week’s reading.

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4 Ways to Financially Prepare for 2021

Happy Monday!

As I reflect on my financial goals

Where I came from, where I am currently, where I want to go.

I can honestly say that I see a lot of growth.

I came a long way!

One of the major realizations that I have had is that managing and growing your finances is all about your mindset.

You really have to go from a mindset of poverty, lack, and instant gratification to a mindset of wealth, abundance, and patience, especially when you come from where I come from.

This journey is easier said than done.

Most people who are mentally living in a state of poverty are

  1. okay with it  
  2. don’t even realize they living in it

Managing and growing your finances is also about ACTION!

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Gaining Clarity: A Boss Experience

Last week, I sat down and I got CLEAR.

I got clear on the vision and the mission that I have for my life.

I initially decided to discuss that topic because I wanted to support my tribe, you, in getting clear on your personal life’s mission and having a productive year and life.

A lot of people were coming to me saying that they were confused and didn’t know what direction they should go.


After completing the exercise for myself, I gained even more clarity on my purpose and how I want to spend my days in my old age.

If you have not completed the previous exercises, I encourage you to do so right away.

This week, I have spent a lot of time thinking about what I want my 2021 to look like.

I asked myself,

“What am I going to do in 2021 to help me fulfill my mission?”

“What am I going to do in 2021 to get me closer to the life that envision for myself?”

Asking myself those questions helped me to put a lot of things in perspective.

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How A Moms Vision Can Save Her Child(ren)

For the last two days we have been sculpting the answers to the following questions:

  1. What is your mission for your life?
  2. What is your vision for your life?

Your response to those two questions will support you in living in your purpose!

If you have not read the last 2 articles, please do so, after you get done reading this post.

Let’s get into it.

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How to Design A Powerful Vision Statement

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5 Questions to Support You in Identifying Your Life’s Purpose

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Happy Monday!

Over the weekend I had the opportunity to host a “Breakfast and Visions” with a group of dope Black entrepreneurs and community leaders from the city of Wilmington, De.

I love hosting those type of events because it gives me the opportunity to support dope people in getting clear about what it is that they want to accomplish in their life and in their business.

I love it!

The conversations that we had during our transformational session, is what inspired this week’s blog post.

I know most of you who read my content are ready to live life on your own terms.

You want to do what you want, when you want.

You want to travel the world, start businesses, give back to your community, and live in peace!

I feel you.

I am with you.

For you to obtain the lifestyle you want, it is important for you to get clear on your Personal Mission Statement .

I am sure if you have worked for any organization, you have heard of a mission statement. It the statement that describes what the organization is about that you are associated with.

Your Personal Mission Statement is bigger than that.

Getting clear on your Personal Mission Statement will support you in making decisions in your life that align with your purpose and core values.

What is a Personal Mission Statement?

Your Personal Mission Statement describes 3 things

  1. who you are
  2. what you do
  3. why you do it

Your Personal Mission Statement helps you to identify your purpose in your life!

Here are 5 questions that you can ask yourself to support you in developing your Personal Mission Statement:

  1. What are my core values?
  2. Who do I serve?
  3. How do I make their lives better?
  4. What do I want to accomplish in my life?
  5. What am I passionate about?

Please remember when developing your Personal Mission Statement:

  • You must write It down
  • It should be no more than 2 sentences.
  • This is the first step in manifesting the life you desire
  • Share your vision with others

If you need support in getting clear on your life’s mission, please visit:

Antinettedevelops.com/work-with-Antinette

I am now accepting clients

Talk to you soon!

The Benefits of “Niching Down” in Your Business

Hey Boss Friend,

It has been a minute since I actually sat down and wrote you!

I have been putting so much time into developing other parts of this brand that I have not been able to do what I love the most.

And that is write.

The last couple of weeks have been enlightening and I am making some big decisions regarding my brand and my voice.

There will be some revamps coming soon to my website and I am truly excited about my present and especially for 2021.

Here is a heads up!

Beginning today, you will begin to see my content change!

I finally decided to do something that I have been resisting for 2 years and that is choosing a “niche”.

If you have been following me for a while, you know that this has been a real struggle for me.

I struggle because I do not want to leave anyone out.

However, I am pass that!

Since I have been seriously focusing only on this business for the last couple of months, I have realized that I will be burnt out if I don’t focus on one group of people to develop and build up.

As I began to think about who and what I want to focus on, I began to think about me and my life and what would be “easy”.

When I say “easy” I don’t mean without challenge, but “easy” to incorporate with my lifestyle.

I want my brand to represent me fully and I do not want to do or be too much outside of myself to attract my tribe.

Because I am building a virtual business, I realize that I have to create content that speaks to a particular group of people.

Sombody.

There are 7.59 billion people in the world.

There are 3.81 billion people on social media.

Me trying to speak to everyone just isn’t effective for what it is I want to achieve in this online space.

After much thought and reflection.

Here is who I chose

MOMS

Yes MOMS

It makes perfect sense.

As a mom myself, with a special needs child, a homeschool teacher to two, and a girlfriend, founder of 2 businesses, times get tough.

I want to speak more to my experience as that.

I want to create a space where I can share my journey regarding my personal life, relationship(s), parenting, entrepreneurship, and a little bit of Tarot lol.

Now that I know who and what I am going to focus on.

Moving forward when I go live, I know exactly who I am speaking to.

When I write my blog, I know exactly who I want to read my content.

I am currently working on an online course and “niching down” has helped me to find my voice as it pertains creating that.

I have truly saw the value in “niching down” so far.

Because some of you have been rocking with me for a while, I wanted to make this announcement, that I am evolving.

I love you all and stay true

To you!

How to Stop Procrastinating

Welcome to episode 17 of Boss Talk Coversation with Antinette!

For those of you who do not know, my name is Antinette.

I am a mom of 2, an entrepreneur, and manifestation expert. I support my clients in designing and living their best life!

Periodt!

I am so happy that you could join the conversation today!

During todays conversation, we are tackling the monster of PROCRASTINATION?

Be honest, are you someone who likes to hold things of until the last minute?

Did you know there is a reason why you do this, and it is not because you want just don’t feel like it.

By the end of todays conversation, I will help you to understand where your procrastination stems from, while also providing you with solutions that will support you in conquering the beast!

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We have a special guest joining us tonight to talk to us about her travel agency and will share with us how we can get paid to travel as well!

Join my email list

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To schedule your Empower Hour session, the pricing for this transformational experience will RISE! Take advantage NOW!

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You need more than an hour?

Are you the type of person that needs support from start to finish?

Admit it. It’s okay lol. I support my clients from vision into fruition! Schedule your clarity session below, to see how I can support you.

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Are you looking for someone to facilitate a training to your team that will support them in setting goals and/or managing their time?

The link below is for you

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I look forward to hearing from you!