Why I Am Going Back To Therapy & Why You Should Go To

Hey now!

I am giving it another try, I am taking my butt to therapy……AGAIN!

I tried going in 2019, however, it did not work out. I attended about 3-4 sessions and after the therapist kept showing up late, I ended our relationship.

Quickly after that I quit my job and I could no longer afford therapy anymore or so I thought.

Did you know that Medicaid pays for therapy? Yes they do!

When I was working, my sessions were close to $100, and now that I have Medicaid, my sessions are FREE!

I plan on taking full advantage of these free sessions for sure.

I really enjoyed going to therapy. It was one hair where I could spend 1 hour with an unbiased person talking my issues and my problems.

The first session…as soon as I opened my mouth, the tears started flowing. Second session I was told that I had anxiety and the sessions did not last too much longer after that.

Now I am going back and I am determined to find someone I can connect with and who can really support me and give me the tools that I need to get out of my own way.

This time I am being more specific with my search. I don’t just want any therapist.

 This time I would like my therapist to be a minority, preferably Black, a woman, and someone older than me.

Studies show that a person who has a helping professional who look like them, has a greater chance of being understood and being helped.

My last therapist was my age.

I felt like she was too comfortable. She was so comfortable to the point where she would cuss in our sessions. I am a cusser, but I feel that the professional is always supposed to maintain a certain type of professionalism.

This time, I am not only being more specific in my approach I am being more specific in my healing.

DISCLAIMER: I believe that every living person should see a therapist at least once. Commit to a few sessions and see what comes up for YOU!

The main reason I am seeking therapy this time around is because I suffered a great loss recently.

Grief is so crazy when dealing with a loss that is unexpected.

I didn’t think I would cry anymore since the last time I cried. I knew the thoughts would remain but I thought the emotional part was over.

I was wrong!

Literally 2 days ago I started crying and crying. I was cool. Then this song came on and I just busted out crying.

 That’s grief tho’.

I have to remind myself. It’s okay to feel emotions, but don’t stay in that sad place for too long.

I also want support in processing the fact that I “feel” I lost the last father figure I had.

I say feel because my “dad” is still alive but I don’t have the tools or will to rebuild that relationship honestly.

I think about  wanting to have a good relationship with my dad, but the relationship is inconsistent so I don’t know how to handle that.

I need help.

Last but not least, I need support in my relationships, platonic and romantic.

When it comes to communicating, intimacy, connecting.

 When you don’t have a relationship with the person(s) that birthed you.

When the people who gave birth to you literally neglect you and ignore you, it does something to you.

For me, to not feel that pain of the experiences I was dealing with in my life anymore I had to build BIG walls.

Walls that would support me in not feeling, reacting, or responding when I feel neglected, ignored, or any other emotion that does not make me feel good.

Those walls that I have built are now affecting the relationships that I am having as an adult.

It affects the self-talk that I have about certain situations.

It affect how I respond and react in situations and I believe that most of my thought could cease if I communicate but I don’t want to say the wrong thing in the wrong way sometimes.

If you know me personally you might say “No, not Nette.”

Most times I’m gone say what I want because that is how I was raised, but I really be sparing people man. Lol.

I don’t want to spare people and I don’t want to hurt people either, I just want to be heard and say what I have to say, in the most respectful way possible.

So that why I am going to therapy.

I want to show up as my best self every day and I know therapy will support me in doing that.

My first appointment is Monday!!

I am excited and I will surely be back to let you know how it went.

Are you someone who has experienced some form of trauma or have been involved in some type of drama that has affected you in a major way?

I encourage you to go to therapy!

Schedule that appointment.

It is time to take the necessary steps for you to heal so you can manifest the life you deserve.

Alright now.

Until next time…..

Episode 15: How to Create A Routine That Allows You to Do It All!

Hey Bosses!

In episode 15 of Boss Talk Conversation, I will share 1 POWERFUL strategy that will support you in creating a routine that allows you to do ALL that you HAVE to do and all that you WANT to do in that the time that you have.

If you struggle with not having enough time or you want to do more for you, in the time that you have, it is a must that you listen to episode 15!

Using this strategy has really helped me to take control of my life and my time.

Your time is your most valuable asset!

How you spend your time is VITAL to your success!

If this is your struggle, allow me to support you in overcoming this obstacle in your life so you can WIN!

P.S The worksheets that I discuss in episode 15 were given to the BOSSES who are already on my email list.

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I hope you find this episode valuable!

Talk to you later!

Episode 14: Goal Setting 101- The Power Behind Writing Down Your Goals

Hey hey hey!!

Episode 14 is now available on Boss Talk Conversation!

I am so excited for this episode!

Please tune in!

I don’t want to say too much about the episode before you watch

However, what I will say is that if you are someone who does not write down your goals.

You may think the process is pointless and has no value but it really does and by the end of this episode, I hope you see that!

Please like, subscribe, comment…all that!


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I want the conversations to be valuable to YOU. So I need you to talk to me.

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Talk to you soon!

Ep 10: How to Focus, Take Action, and Be FREE in Your Life Right NOW!

My name is Antinette and I support people in being happy, healthy, and whole!
I want you to live a life that brings you joy and happiness. However, I cannot want that more than you want it for yourself. grow, elevate, and heal so that we can be the best that we can be!

Hey hey hey!

My name is Antinette and I support people in being happy, healthy, and whole!

One of the ways I do this is through my podcast, “Boss Talk Converssations” where every conversation is focused on helping YOU to #Bossup in some area of your life!

This week, I am sharing with you 3 questions that you can ask yourself TODAY to support you in

  1. Focusing on what will create transformations in your life
  2. Taking action in your life
  3. Being FREE from the chains that hold you in bondage

I want you to live a life that brings you joy and happiness.

However, I cannot want that more than you want it for yourself.

Lets grow, elevate, and heal so that we can be the best that we can be!

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Thank you and until next time